Mom Vs. ADD/ADHD
These past few weeks have been VERY trying. Past few weeks? Okay, past few years. As my 2 youngest kids are aging, I am finding that we are struggling more and more with issues that are related to ADD or ADHD. I’ve talked to their doctors about it before and they have said, “Don’t worry, it’s not that bad.” or “They’ll grow out of it.”. As the years go by, I think they are growing “into” it, not out of it. Some days, I want to string them upside down from the ceiling fan. Just when I think that things are calming down and they are falling into their place in the world, my cell phone rings non-stop on a Sunday afternoon. A Sunday HOLIDAY weekend, nonetheless. How many principals call parents on the weekend? I guess that is saved for when students leave faculty completely flabbergasted and they have to process what went down for 2 days before they can even work up the nerve to contact you. But onward…
Since school started just a few weeks ago, I have received 2 phone calls about Bristol. He’s 6 and the baby of the house. Bristol seems to be quite the talker and he can’t sit still in class. The teacher says that Bristol is so bad that he is distracting other students and affecting their ability to learn. I guess the worst thing of all of this is that the teacher is leading me to believe that she thinks Bristol needs medicated. I am COMPLETELY against medicating a child. Surely there are other options? Can’t I get control of the situation using another method?
This problem isn’t new and last year Bristol’s kindergarten teacher was constantly calling or emailing me. The issues were the same. “Bristol won’t quit talking” or “Bristol can’t sit still”. Medication was brought up by the teacher so I offered to do some research and see what I could do BESIDES give him pills. We tried putting him in running club in the mornings before school, hoping that he would run out some energy and he could focus the rest of the day. Nope. At the recommendation of their after school program director, we tried giving Bristol Mountain Dew before school. Apparently, some parents will give kids with ADD/ADHD a shot of the Dew before school and the high amount of sugar counteracts with their already hyperactivity and it calms them down. Nope, big negative there. We tried making him spend more time playing in the evenings…. negative. We changed our eating habits, their bed-time… so many things. During the summer I crossed my fingers and hoped and prayed that everything would change when he went back to school but apparently everything is still the same. Bristol still lacks the ability to focus, to sit still and he can’t seem to shut his mouth. Now I ask, is this really ADD or ADHD or is this kid just bored? What really bothers me is that we really don’t notice this behavior at home. He plays and acts perfectly normal. When we are out in public, we don’t have to worry about compulsive behavior. So, what’s happening here?
If anyone has a magic problem-solving wand, please lend it to me. First I will save all the homeless animals and then I will wave it in front of my kids. And then possibly myself. While I would like to give all the credit for hyperactivity and craziness to their father, I can’t. I am the same kid that went to school in a dress and would hang upside down on the monkeybars with no underwear. I’m the same girl who was constantly the prankster and class clown (still am). I really was a monster although I never did anything malicious, just obnoxious. Do I think I have ADD? Yes. ADD, ADHD, OCD, CSAFTD (disease that causes you have three kids) and more. But do I think I need medicated for it? Oh, I am medicated for it. Interesting revelation.
And for those of you wondering what brought the call to my house on a Sunday… Paris (the middle child) decided that he would whip out his winkie and pee in a cup in class. His justification? He had to go to the bathroom and the teacher refused to let him go (he had already went numerous times). He claims he was worried about wetting his pants. Now, how in the HELL did he get the idea to piss in a cup? This specific problem I CAN and WILL blame on his father.
Why does the first child you have always make you want to have more? It’s like the worst con EVER. You have that one amazing, smart and perfect child that is a breeze to raise, who never ever gets in trouble and who made you want to have lots of little babies running around. Then you procreate some more and the result is these little demons that while they are beautiful, smart and amazing, they also are the biggest pains in the ass ever.
Inquiring minds want to know… comment on my blog with your thoughts on medicating kids for ADD/ADHD and also with your recommendations of things to try in an effort to avoid the meds. Please!!!